Many people have a narrow definition of sex, when in reality sex isn’t really about just our genitals.
Recently I had an online conversation with a guy about orgasms and their importance in relationships. To be exact, to whether orgasms that involve squirting are better than non-squirting orgasms.
I told him that sex and intimacy is not just about the orgasm, it’s about the whole experience. Whether I squirt or not (or cum or not) doesn’t make a difference if I enjoy it. He was actually surprised that an orgasm was not the most important part of my sexual experience.
He then mentioned that maybe it was because I was into Tantra. I laughed and told him it really depends on the connection with my partner, I’ve had sex with no orgasm that was amazing because of who it was with and what we did. And I’ve had orgasmic sex that wasn’t overall that satisfying. Of course my kind of sex isn’t always what people would imagine sex is.
After thinking about the conversation I realized that because of my relationship to orgasms that my sexual encounters never require one. You see, for me orgasms are seldom connected to my erotic core and are usually pretty much just physical. If they happen, wonderful and they are not the reason I have sex (or what appears as sex) with other people.
So my questions to you. What is your definition of sex? How important is orgasm to you when it comes to sexual encounters? Can you truly have a satisfying experience without an orgasm?